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A Fresh Beginning

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A new lease on life is an occasion when you become more energetic and active than before. You may need a new lease on life. A new perspective. A change in the scope of your life. A revamp of your image. A fresh beginning is not just for someone who has done time and now entering back into society. It is not just for someone who has made a mistake and now they have a second chance.

A fresh beginning can be yours at any time in your life. You don’t need permission to have a fresh start. No one needs to approve of you starting over. If you are an entrepreneur, you are constantly evolving with opportunity for many fresh starts. Maybe you need to revamp your business, get a different perspective about where you are going or get better resources – whatever the case may be – you can start anew.

Never allow anyone to tell you that you can’t start fresh. If you are in a rut, try your best to get a new perspective – go to a new place, take a nature walk or do something you haven’t done before as this may spark new interest or awaken something within you that has been lying dormant. Make a fresh beginning in your life. Get rid of things that are no longer serving your best, whether it is clothes or relationships. I don’t know how far you want to go but you know what you need to begin again.

It is never too late to make a fresh beginning.


Frenetta Tate is a Certified Women’s empowerment Coach, Business Strategist, Author and
Motivational Orator. Connect on social media on Twitter @frenettatate and Facebook @ frenettatateinternational

It Will not End Until…

 

It will not end until accountability, responsibility and true justice is taken seriously across the board – top down and then across. The pattern is that a vast majority of police officers are not held accountable for killing unarmed men and women who are clearly no threat to them or to society. They are not doing their jobs. They are being paid to be criminals. I don’t care how they were trained and I am tired of them hiding behind ‘training’ and not being charged with activities that are criminal. I am tired of them being ‘above the law.’

We are smart. We see. We rightly judge. We look at the videos and discuss it among ourselves. There is no open season on blacks. We are not going to put these images and phrases out there. That is not what we want or desire. We do not want an ‘open season’, We do not want to be ‘targeted’, we do not want to be in ‘fear’ of our lives just driving down the street or standing still. We do not want that. What we want is to be able to live and enjoy life and not continue to be threatened, harassed, beaten and killed because of who we are.

We are tired of being misjudged, mishandled, misunderstood, falsely accused and guilty before innocent. What we ask for, continually, is to simply live our lives, enjoy peace and happiness, afforded to all in this damn country. I am sick of the racial divides that promote hate and the people who continue to propagate it throughout this country. I am tired of people talk big talk and doing nothing about it – putting up a good front for the TV and behind the scenes not doing anything to solve the problems.

It starts with accountability and responsibility for criminal action, then conviction, then sentencing that fits the crime and a pattern of such.

  • When police officers see that they will no longer be able to just shoot and kill someone without a justifiable reason – they will start actually doing their jobs the way it is supposed to be done.
  • When police officers see that there is no longer a network of people supporting their criminal behavior, they will have no choice but to do their jobs correctly.
  • We need an increase in examples of conviction, prosecution and proper sentencing of police officers who abuse their power and kill unjustifiably.  I further believe that police officers who have gotten away with unjustifiable murders should have their cases reopened and reviewed by a higher, objective court, with subsequent proper sentencing.
  • No longer should a police officer be set free when his or her actions are criminal. At that point, he or she should not be considered an officer, but a civilian, because the actions were not congruent with that of an officer. They were not protecting and serving; they were acting outside of the bounds of their duties and therefore, it is something else.
  • There needs to be a stricter adherence to the law for police officers, judges, police chiefs, district attorneys, mayors and internal affairs staffers.

I hope there is a DA and a Judge that will have the courage to step outside of the ‘code’ or the unwritten ‘I got your back’ laws and do what is right, instead of what is easy.

I have a theory and I am speaking into the universe that things will begin to unravel in various areas of government, public and private, about why police officers are not being held accountable for unjustified shootings.

  • May it be revealed the truth about side deals, bribes, gift exchanges, favor exchanges and other unlawful acts.  
  • May whispered conversations that are against policy or that show a blatant miscarriage of justice be heard loudly.
  • May lawmakers, influential person(s) or anyone who can effect radical change in how this is all done rise up with the courage to walk away from the ‘in’ crowd and reveal the currently hidden information about why things are happening the way they are.
  • May the ‘behind the scenes’ become the front page news.’ 
  • May everyone who has anything to do with these cover-ups and mishandled justifications be ousted through a divine intervention.
  • May resignations of people who are fouling up the system come forth.
  • May those who truly want to make a difference in our justice system rise in power and truth and NEVER BACK DOWN, speak truth to power and render right judgments.

Now, that I have gotten that out of the way. Here is where WE come in.

It will not end until WE do what we need to do in our own communities. WE have work to do. WE cannot ‘wait’ for things to be given to us. WE must do the work within our own communities. WE must unify and strengthen ourselves; Mind, Body and Spirit. Instead of asking “What is the plan?” Ask “what can I do?” and then be willing and ready to do it. Start right where you stand. Start with yourself and let it permeate. Start with feeding your mind, taking care of your body and coming to a right spirit within. It is time for us to become more united than we are divided. We can’t effect change with a divided house. It is only through ‪‎unification‬, can change manifest. We need to get ourselves together. Each state and each city can mobilize their communities, bring everyone together to educate and empower them. This is not about violence, eye for an eye or revenge. As you know, you live by the sword, you die by the sword. We are not desiring to die! No one has to die! We want to live and we fight for this through unification, education and empowerment of our people. WE put forth the effort to change the landscape of our lives and our communities, one person at a time. I’ve developed the EECBU 7 step solution.

The EECBU 7 Step Solution

Educate Our People. Empower Our Communities. Build Unity.

  • In your community, Form a leadership team of passionate and sound-thinking individuals.
  • Meet to discuss an agenda for the community wide meeting
  • Create a flyer to hand out to everyone in neighborhood to invite them. Do it!
  • Have a community-wide meeting at a local community center in your neighborhood.

Have the following or similar discussion topics:

  • The Current Problems
    • Community Perceptions
    • Community Appearance
    • Loss of Unification
    • Loss of Life
    • Dealing with the Police
  • The Sustainable Solutions
    • Change the perception and appearances
    • Mini Communication Courses
    • Develop a team of Community Caretakers
    • Policing our own neighborhood
  • Community Cleanup Days
    • Get volunteer street leaders for each street
    • Solicit Donations for trash bags and other needs
    • Yard beautification guidelines – Start with your yard to clean up the community!
  • Community Patrol Officers
    • To police our own neighborhood – Get them trained in ER, FR and FA, develop patrol schedules, daily logs and incident reports.
  • Community Conversations
    • Stay connected by building regular block parties for quick 30 minute classes on various topics related to Life-Skills, Discussion panels and motivational speakers.
  • Have 5 sign-up sheets for the above areas – Names, Numbers and Emails of people WILLING and READY TO ACT and serve in these capacities, as well as designate leaders.
  • Create Accountability teams for all of the above discussion topics

The key is to take back the neighborhood, educate the people, and empower them with knowledge and skills. Build relationships and promote unity among our people. If you follow the above, you will see transformation in your neighborhood.

It is important to be a part of the solution instead of continuing to talk about the problem.

This is one solution, starting from the inside out. There may be other solutions. I believe it begins in OUR HOUSE! We’ve got to change perception, encourage new ideas and thought, as well as get our minds right, ourselves in order and bring back the unity in our community.

 

Learn more about Frenetta at http://www.frenettatate.com

Own Yourself

Own YourselfMany women entrepreneurs(WE) are copy cats! They mimic another person’s style, talk, catch phrases, words and moves. WE do themselves the greatest disservice because they are denying the beauty of who they are and attaching themselves to someone else instead of standing in their own rights, power and authority. What they don’t realize is it will not work or fit right because they are out of character. They must get back into character and integrity. It is like trying on a suit two sizes too big or too small and expect it to look like it fits. It is a façade. I know. I have been in the position of not standing in my own greatness but I am not there anymore and I don’t want any WE to be there either.

It is time to own who you are. Use and embrace your own gifts, talents and abilities. I emphatically believe that each person has been endowed with gifts and graces that give them the right and responsibility to operate in them to the fullest capability and divine flow. You can’t do this if you don’t own who you are. first and foremost. How do you own yourself?

Accept what is. Be in acceptance and non-resistance mode when it comes to yourself. Accept who you are mentally and emotionally and where you are physically. Accept all pieces of you. Resist nothing. If there is something you don’t like, then begin creating a new reality for yourself and move forward from being stuck and stressed about it.

Ignore what is. I know this reads a bit strange but no longer give energy to anything that is not the way you want it to be. Ignore what is so that you can be better than you are. Acknowledge where you are and then move forward.  Don’t pitch your tent in a place where you can’t get the best hold for your stake. If ‘what is’ is not where you desire to be then stop being there. Ignore it and start creating your new life with new beliefs and an expectation of new and greater experiences.

Give energy in the right direction. Stop sending your energy to the place of desolation. Send and vibrate in the place where growth, passion and purpose is evident. Vibrating to a false narrative will not get you the results that you truly desire.

Be the WE you were created to be, in your own space, style, talk, walk , gifts, graces, talents, skills and physical manifestation. The world is waiting for you – not an imitation of someone else in you. It is time to rise up, understand what is holding you back and walk boldly in the direction of what you truly want for your life.

Women Entrepreneurs hire Frenetta to discover and understand the impacts of their strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, threats and trends in their business because most entrepreneurs lack knowledge about their existence and affects so I help them to come to a place of clarity and focus about their business goals and apply unique and purposeful strategies for perpetual growth and success. Bottom line, I help them use SWOTT elements to their unique advantage and position themselves to make powerful, forward-moving decisions about their business. Learn more about Frenetta at http://www.frenettatate.com

Say Hello to Your Good

I have been through a lot in my 40+ years of age. I have experienced a lot of pain, a lot of anguish, a lot of lies, a lot of distrustful women/men, a lot of wasted time, a lot of wasted tears, a lot of wasted money, etc. Shall I go on? I have been able to glean from it all. Sometimes we can allow the bad things that happen to us get us down, make us to feel depressed, hopeless, sad and defeated and sometimes people say bad things to break us, do us wrong, take advantage of us, crush us and cause us to feel less than or not good enough by saying, “I DON’T WANT YOU!”.  The truth is WE ARE GOOD ENOUGH!

I have something to say to ALL the BAD STUFF and the infamous I DON’T WANT YOUs and YOU can declare this for your life, as well:

I DECLARE to all of the BAD THINGS and all of the I DON’T WANT YOUs that have been told to me in an attempt to bring me down and has not added progression to my life, I would like to proudly say that, “I don’t want you, either, I don’t need you, either!”. You have been no good to my life; nothing but experiences to try and destroy the life I am building. YOU will not succeed over me! I am a child of GOD, I am covered in his blood, I am protected and I will always succeed! I will never be defeated, not even by those repeated and demeaning words in my head that you said just to try and hold me back because I have learned the lesson from this even in YOUR attempt to defeat me and crush me. I WILL NOT LOSE! 

So, instead of allowing those words to continuously be thrown at me in my lifetime, I now say BACK to you, “I DON’T WANT YOU” in my life. THOSE WORDS CAN GO! Get out of my life. I have had it with you coming around, taking up space and leaving me empty. I have had it with you complaining and whining about the misery of life. I am sick of you whispering in my ear that situations are hopeless. I will not let you pull me down anymore. All the bad, inconsequential, nonsense, ridiculousness, outrageous, mean, uncaring, thoughtless and meaningless things are NOW no longer relevant to me. YOU no longer have POWER over me, NOT your WORDS or ACTIONS.

 To ALL the BAD STUFF, I have RISEN from the ashes of the pain that you have caused me in my life and I say, unequivocally and without a doubt that I DON’T WANT YOUR BAD KIND, ANYMORE! You have to go, GET OUT OF MY LIFE. I will not let you continue to bring me down and cause me to feel like I am less than and not good enough. I don’t need the negative energy YOU BRING to my life. YOU are always trying to DRAIN my life from living the very best. I DON’T NEED YOU ANYMORE!  I don’t need the SORRY and the BLAME that your BAD STUFF bring when you come around. I don’t want you to come around anymore!   Leave me alone, don’t come knocking on my door, do not bother me, don’t call me, don’t text me, don’t come see me.  To ALL the BAD STUFF, You tried your best to tear me down, to break me down, to crush my spirit, to stump on my heart, to knock me down a peg, to take away my joy and to steal my peace. YOU TRIED and you HAVE FAILED. I WILL NOT LOSE, I WILL NOT BE DEFEATED!  YOU HAVE NOT WON!  I HAVE WON!  I am STILL STANDING! I am standing tall, strong, bold and confident and that I WILL REMAIN!

YOU are NOT WELCOME here!  I DON’T WANT TO SEE YOU ANYMORE!  GOODBYE BAD STUFF and the infamous I DON’T WANT YOUs!

I NOW open my arms to RECEIVE ALL of the GOOD that has been waiting on me, ALL the good that stood at the door and knocked but I would not let them in because the BAD was there. I open my arms wide to receive the beautiful gifts of LOVE, KINDNESS, FAITHFULNESS, PATIENCE, THOUGHTFULNESS and JOY.

I walk into the beauty of my life without the BAD and I say, without hesitation, HELLO GOOD and WELCOME TO MY LIFE!

Share Your Story:  Have you said goodbye to the bad and welcomed the good?

Frenetta Tate is a Motivational Orator, International Author, Women’s Empowerment Coach, Business Consultant and Partner. Learn more at http://www.frenettatate.com

Social Media – On Your Terms

If all social media sites went completely down for one day; would you be able to survive? Truthfully, would be able to cope? You would have to call people you’d want to talk to, You’d actually have to make eye contact with people and use your interpersonal skills. Some would panic, some would riot, some would be angry all day long because they have hidden behind the text, the email, the Facebook messenger, the cell phone, the tweet, the pin, the Instagram and the status update for so long that they have forgotten how to have human interaction without weirdness. Let me share some statistics that will give you an idea of what we are really dealing with if ever social media sites were to be down for a day:

#Facebook has over 1 billion users with 20% logging on up to 6 times a day and 70% of marketers use it to gain new customers; not to mention one million other web pages are accessed through Facebook. #Google+ has over one billion users, reaching 359 million monthly. #Twitter has over 550 million users and is considered the fastest growing. Pinterest has 20 million users and Instagram has 150 million.

You can get more stats at Jeff Bullas site at http://www.jeffbullas.com/2014/01/17/20-social-media-facts-and-statistics-you-should-know-in-2014/#lKJ0RmmwFwsH8M9K.99

So, we are talking about billions of people all over the country, who would be dramatically affected by a social media meltdown. Why do I highlight this? I highlight it to raise awareness. If you are an entrepreneur or individual using social media for hobby; here a five actions you can take:

  1. Periodically download your data from the sites so you will always have your data. I know for a fact both Facebook and Twitter offers such service. Stay in control of your content as much as possible.
  2. Let up a bit and don’t put all your eggs in one basket. Don’t use one site for everything yet you do not have to be on every social media site in the world. Choose the ones that resonate with your business target audience.
  3. Periodically clean up your pages; remove old stuff, update information and reassess if the content is what you truly want to remain on your page.
  4. Make sure you understand all privacy rights and settings. About 25% of people do not pay attention to privacy settings on Facebook. Pay attention. Know your rights. Manage your page.
  5. Take breaks from social media and the phone. Take a day to focus on being present without technological interferences. You can do it! It is not out of your control.

These actions will help you to not be so co-dependent on social media.

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Frenetta Tate is a Motivational Orator, International Author, Women’s Empowerment Coach, Business Consultant and Partner. Learn more at http://www.frenettatate.com

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