Category Archives: Affirmations

Eradicating the Root of Negativity

While there may have been many negative seeds (words) planted (spoken) into your life (by others) that have seemingly grown into big mighty oak trees; suffocating the positive seeds; thwarting your good works; attacking and fortifying strongholds in your mind; controlling your actions and overall, acting as barriers to you moving forward in your purpose.
I stopped by to tell you that God put it in the minds of men to design a vehicle and equip it with the power to uproot a mighty oak tree. If God can do that for an oak tree, then surely His word can provide the supernatural power you need to uproot and overcome every negative word that’s been spoken into your life.
Don’t allow someone’s unfavorable words keep you from your unique purpose.  Let the negative seeds fall into the abyss while you rise up and fulfill your purpose. 
If negative words have taken root in you; I want to share how you can eradicate it from your life. You see, you just can’t say a few things, jump up and turn around and run around the block for your change. You have to put in work for your transformation to be realized. Here are four steps to breaking the power of negative words spoken over you: 
1. Don’t receive them as your truth. Just because someone says it, doesn’t make it true! 
2. Break any agreement you made with those words.  Now is the time to disagree with those words – to say they are lies and not true for you.
3. Stand guard and be alert so that once something negative to spoken to you or over you; you can address it immediately so it will not go any further into your heart.
4. You can be your biggest critic so, be careful what you say to yourself. Remember that words have no sense of humor – they simply go do what they were created to do. 
5. Don’t give all your power and attention to negativity. Ignoring it sets you up for more peace. 
If you need coaching in this area, Frenetta Tate International’s coaching services can help you. 
Love and Light, 


The Tests of Friendship

I would like to share a story about friendship. I typically avoid taking friends to the George Bush Intercontinental Airport. It was too big, too much traffic and I’d get lost every time so I would automatically say “NO!” But, I received a message from a dear friend and I did not hesitate to say “YES!”. Why?

Because I had known her less than 5 months when I had to move out of my apartment suddenly by order of the fire marshal (roof caved in) 16 years ago. I only needed a place to stay for a few days so I told her about my situation. She said, ‘Come on, stay as long as you need to’! She was going to be out of town that whole week but this woman did not question me about ‘why’, how long’ or ‘anything’. While she was out of town, she allowed me to stay at her home, gave me the alarm codes, called the front gate to tell them I’d be there and just basically took me in. This amazed me!

You see, I had asked another person whom I had known for ‘years’ (I just ‘knew’ they’d help me) and they hesitated, asked me all kinds of questions and delayed an answer. That amazed me, too! I couldn’t believe it but it taught me a lesson:

The kind of friendship you really have with someone will be revealed when it is tested by trials and challenges during the life of the friendship. Where you stand in that person’s life is indicative of how they respond to you when you really need them to come through for you. Granted, there are variables but you will know who you are really dealing with in those moments so pay attention. As well, I like the fact (and this has been proven in my own life) that God always has a ram in the bush to meet your need as you trust Him to bring you out of your situation. So, when people act like they are your ‘only saving grace’, that is not true.

Miracles do happen and thank God for true friends who have your back no matter what you go through. So, yep! I will take you to the George Bush Intercontinental crazy, big airport because when I had no place to go for a few days, you took me in. I will always have this sister’s back because she showed me love and she didn’t have to. This truly was a test of friendship.

Frenetta Tate | Business Strategist, Int’l Entrepreneur & Empowerment Coach, Speaker, 5X Author. Become a Travel Agent or Digital Entrepreneur! Let’s Connect – DM Me!

Kwanzaa: Celebrating the Good

Happy Kwanzaa!  I enjoy this time of year – Celebrating Kwanzaa!

You have the power of leadership. You have the power to create and celebrate the good in this world. Never forget how awesome you are and how much you can offer this world.

Below is an excerpt from Dr. Maulana Karenga’s annual message. I share this excerpt to provide education and inspiration but that you would also be moved in your heart to embrace the principles and implement them in your life and business.

The beautiful thing about Kwanzaa is that while it is speaking to African Americans; Dr. Karenga’s message is kindly inclusive of all people and the world. 

“Embracing the Principles and Practice of Kwanzaa: Creating and Celebrating the Good”

The Seven Principles, the Nguzo Saba, prove their enduring and daily relevance in the life we live, the work we do, and the struggle we wage on every front to expand the realm of freedom and justice, peace, security, well-being and other goods in the world. Umoja (Unity) teaches us the oneness of our people, the common ground of our humanity, the interrelatedness of life and the indispensability of family and community in our righteous togetherness in love, work and struggle.

In a world where there are ongoing invasions, bombing, occupations and other mass assaults on vulnerable peoples and lands, and there are outrageous denials of the rights to freedom and independence, the principle of Kujichagulia (Self-determination) reaffirms our right and everyone’s right to control our destiny and daily lives, and build the good communities, societies and future we conceive, aspire to and struggle to bring into being.

In a world where degraded forms of individualism claim the day and people are taught conflict over cooperation and rush ruthlessly ahead at the expense of others, Ujima (Collective Work and Responsibility) teaches us that we come into being, thrive and flourish in needed and principled relationships. And it teaches us that it is together that we must conceive and construct the good communities, societies and world we all want and deserve.

In a world where corporate pillage and plunder of the wealth of the world and alliances with invading and occupying armies are understood as normal and necessary by citizen beneficiaries, and where silence in the face of slaughter and suffering is justified for “reasons” of the false right to be secure in that brutal robbery and repressive rule, the principle of Ujamaa (Cooperative Economics) teaches the value and practice of shared work and shared wealth, the right of people to their own re-sources and the ethical imperative of a just and equitable sharing of the good of the world.

In a world where evil and injustice flourish and the poor and vulnerable are held in contempt by the rich and powerful and by the wannabe’s that worship and follow them, the principle of Nia (Purpose) reminds us of the ancient ethical teaching in the Odu Ifa that we and all humans are divinely chosen to bring good in the world and that this is the fundamental mission and meaning, i.e., purpose, of human life.

In a world in which worldwide destruction is digitized and brutally imposed on the world, and the police and vigilante taking of Black lives has become almost epidemic, and where countries and whole peoples are devastated, and the environment laid waste with wanton disregard and distain, the principle of Kuumba (Creativity) urges us to practice the ethical teachings of The Husia that put forth the concept of serudj ta, the moral obligation to heal, repair and transform the world making it more beautiful and beneficial than we inherited it.

Finally, In a world where faith is funded, religion is racialized and used to indict and discredit whole peoples and their faith, and God is given the blasphemous and sacrilegious role of co-signing oppression, land and resource robbery and claims of racial and religious supremacy, the principle of Imani (Faith) teaches us to hold tightly and firmly to the faith of our ancestors who taught us to respect each person, people and culture as a unique and equally valid and valuable way of being human in the world.

These are great principles to implement in daily life and in business. Kwanzaa is celebrated December 26 – January 1. Read Dr. Karenga’s full message here.

Frenetta Tate is a Motivational Orator, International Author, Women’s Empowerment Coach, Business Consultant and Partner. Learn more at

Hater-ation is Motivation

Hateration is motivation

When someone does not like you, it is not about you. It is really about them. When they show, through their actions and words that they hate you. They hate what you stand for, they hate how you approach life, they hate how much you care about your appearance, they hate your dedication, they hate your confidence. There is something about the way you are choosing to live you life that they hate because they are not doing what they know they need to do in their own lives.

Instead of focusing on their own greatness, they rather tear down someone else. So, when you encounter someone like this, see it as motivation for you to keep doing great things in your life, keep being dedicated, confident and taking pride in your appearance. You are doing something right; otherwise they would not give you the time of day.

Don’t focus on why they don’t like you. Don’t engage at all. Keep going, choose your battles wisely and focus on continuing to be the best you can be. There is nothing you can do about a made up mind, someone deadest against you so don’t try to persuade others. Your response just might change them, encourage them, empower them to be just as dedicated and confident as you.

Keep your head held high and stay focused.

Question for reflection: Has someone hated on you lately? How did you handle it?

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit to learn more about her services and products.

Educate Yourself

One of the greatest lessons I learned growing up in the Tate house is “if you do not understand what something means – look it up.” Read about it, research it, study it. Get an understanding. Stop waiting for people to hand you a definition. If you were to peer inside my notes and journals – I have random words written in the margin because no matter where I am; when someone is speaking and I do not know what they mean when they say a certain word – I write it down and look it up later.

Teach children to look stuff up and make it fun by having them come back and give you a summary of what they learned and discuss it. I love that we are in the Information Age where we have access to a plethora of information at our fingertips but I will never stop loving hard copy encyclopedias! Be a life-long self-educator.


Frenetta Tate is an International Best-Selling Author, Certified Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker, Event Strategy Consultant and President of EmpowerMe365™. Learn more at