Category Archives: Empower My Life

Eradicating the Root of Negativity

While there may have been many negative seeds (words) planted (spoken) into your life (by others) that have seemingly grown into big mighty oak trees; suffocating the positive seeds; thwarting your good works; attacking and fortifying strongholds in your mind; controlling your actions and overall, acting as barriers to you moving forward in your purpose.
 
I stopped by to tell you that God put it in the minds of men to design a vehicle and equip it with the power to uproot a mighty oak tree. If God can do that for an oak tree, then surely His word can provide the supernatural power you need to uproot and overcome every negative word that’s been spoken into your life.
 
Don’t allow someone’s unfavorable words keep you from your unique purpose.  Let the negative seeds fall into the abyss while you rise up and fulfill your purpose. 
 
If negative words have taken root in you; I want to share how you can eradicate it from your life. You see, you just can’t say a few things, jump up and turn around and run around the block for your change. You have to put in work for your transformation to be realized. Here are four steps to breaking the power of negative words spoken over you: 
 
1. Don’t receive them as your truth. Just because someone says it, doesn’t make it true! 
 
2. Break any agreement you made with those words.  Now is the time to disagree with those words – to say they are lies and not true for you.
 
3. Stand guard and be alert so that once something negative to spoken to you or over you; you can address it immediately so it will not go any further into your heart.
 
4. You can be your biggest critic so, be careful what you say to yourself. Remember that words have no sense of humor – they simply go do what they were created to do. 
 
5. Don’t give all your power and attention to negativity. Ignoring it sets you up for more peace. 
 
If you need coaching in this area, Frenetta Tate International’s coaching services can help you. 
 
Love and Light, 

 

How Different Would the World Be

In recent years, months, weeks and days; Racism has showed up in many forms; from murders, arrests, various cases between individuals, companies to social media, workplace issues and law enforcement. I do not see nor do I comprehend how people can say that Racism does not exist or how they cannot see it happening around them.

Racism is not just a black and white issue. It is a human issue. I have gathered definitions of the most regularly used terms on this subject. I think it is important to be educated about what we are really talking about when it comes to race. It is a topic that affects every person on this entire planet. No one is exempt from being affected by Racism. Whether it is in your face or you ignore it. Your ignoring it does not cease it to be. Your saying that it does not exist does not cease it from existing. It will only not exist in your mind and what you choose to believe but it is laid bare. It is important that people recognize Racism as existing because you cannot change what you don’t see as a problem. You cannot change yourself if you do not believe you are contributing to the problem whether consciously or subconsciously.

I believe, first and foremost; we’ve got to get our understanding on the same page when it comes to racism. It is a touchy subject because no one wants to talk about it. No one wants to believe that they could possibly be harboring racism within themselves. It is okay, if you do. It is not okay, if you ignore it and continue to operate in such a way that affects others disproportionally and unfairly.


Racism consists of both prejudice and discrimination based in social perceptions of biological differences between peoples. Let me stop here and define a couple of terms.

Prejudice = prejudgment, or forming an opinion before becoming aware of the relevant facts of a case.

discrimination = action that denies social participation or human rights to categories of people based on prejudice.

It often takes the form of social actions, practices or beliefs, or political systems that consider different races to be ranked as inherently superior or inferior to each other, based on presumed shared inheritable traits, abilities, or qualities. It may also hold that members of different races should be treated differently.

Racial profiling is discrimination based on stereotypes. “Any police-initiated action that relies on the race, ethnicity, or national origin rather than the behavior of an individual or information that leads the police to a particular individual who has been identified as being, or having been, engaged in criminal activity.”

Racial discrimination refers to the separation of people through a process of social division into categories not necessarily related to races for purposes of differential treatment. Racial segregation policies may formalize it, but it is also often exerted without being legalized. Institutional racism (also known as structural racism, state racism or systemic racism) is racial discrimination by governments, corporations, religions, or educational institutions or other large organizations with the power to influence the lives of many individuals. Another definition, as coined and defined by Stokely Carmichael is “the collective failure of an organization to provide an appropriate and professional service to people because of their color, culture or ethnic origin”.

Modern Racism is characterized by outwardly acting unprejudiced while inwardly maintaining prejudiced attitudes, and displaying subtle prejudist behaviors such as actions informed by attributing qualities to others based on racial stereotypes, and evaluating the same behavior differently based on the race of the person being evaluated. This view is based on studies of prejudice and discriminatory behavior, where some people will act ambivalently towards black people, with positive reactions in certain, more public contexts, but more negative views and expressions in more private contexts.

As you can see, there are definitions of racism; its types and forms, yet I agree wholehearted with this definition, for it covers all of it:

 ANY distinction, exclusion, restriction or preference based on race, color, descent, or national or ethnic origin that has the purpose or effect of nullifying or impairing the recognition, enjoyment or exercise, on an equal footing, of human rights and fundamental freedoms in the political, economic, social, cultural or any other field of public life. (Part 1 of Article 1 of the U.N. International Convention on the Elimination of All Forms of Racial Discrimination)


I wonder how different the world would be if we took one day and laid aside our assumptions and experiences, if we could just lay aside what we were taught by others and see people as simply human without all the stuff we add, without adding our experiences, our background, our race, our cultural categories and all those other things separating us from one another and see each other as just another human being. Could you do it? The Societal Nakedness Challenge. Can society be naked? Can we strip each other and ourselves of what separates us and just ‘BE’?

In order for our world to change in this area; we’ve got to first deal with our own hearts, individually and objectively. We’ve got to look at what we truly believe, what we were taught, how we operate, how we connect with others and what drives those interactions, what drives our decisions and why. This takes an extreme self-reflection; a look within ourselves with a commitment to change what is truly not right and fair. We literally have to separate all the stuff we were taught from what is right and true. I am not saying what you were taught was wrong because I have not idea what you were taught but I believe it is worth examining for our own edification and enlightenment.

We have to search our hearts and pull out what does not connect to the truth of what love really is. Those who are not willing to take an objective stance and look at those beliefs while being courageous enough to drop them and raise their consciousness will not change. As well, those who have a distorted view of what love is will not find it in the heart search because if we don’t have a good, wholesome understanding of love; then we are not going to fully understand the underlying wrongs of racism; no matter the form.

You see, from what I have read and studied, it all comes back around to love. Love for our fellow man, no matter the race, color, descent, national or ethnic origin. This is not easy. Many minds are ingrained with certain kinds of thinking that separates and divides, rather than unify.  So, let us pray about this issue because people are truly hurting and ‘hurt people hurt people’. We’ve got to pray with the understanding that only God can change hearts.

Dialogue helps.

Truth helps.

Understanding helps.

Clarity helps.

Desire helps.

We plant seeds. God brings the increase and the change.

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Frenetta Tate is an International Best-Selling Author, Certified Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker. Learn more at http://www.frenettatate.com

You Can not Give what You Do not Have

You can’t love another human being unless you love and accept yourself. You cannot give what you don’t have. Your self-worth is very important. I am not referring to glorious vanity or your thinking more highly of yourself that you ought. I am referring to the mentality of accepting yourself wholly and without prejudice. It is a treasure and a delight when I meet someone who knows their own worth. When you are aware of who you really are (not who others think you are), you refuse to accept anything less than what you are worth. When I talk about ‘worth’ here, I am referring to your value. Surely, you are priceless.

There is no amount of money that can equal to your existence. There is no amount of money that can be paid to cover your presence. But value, in this case, has to do with how you feel about yourself, treat yourself and what thoughts you think towards yourself.

When you value yourself, others will follow suit in like manner. Many people stay in relationships that are unhealthy because they believe that their own worth is tied to another person. Believe me when I say that your worth is not engulfed within another person. If you are in this type of relationship, Get Out Now! And decide that you are worth it. You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. Other people can help, teach, encourage and empower us but no one can place a measure of value upon you except you-alone. You must know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are worthy! Say it with me: “I am Worthy of Love”

Though the world can be an unloving place, we all, in spite of what we show forth to others, we all have the capacity to love. Love is universal. Any person can recognize love with their heart. It may take longer for some people to recognize love because hurt has blocked them but given the chance, they will. Some people need more love and therefore, more patience to deal with. When you meet someone who seems the most unloving – they are the ones who really need it. They need something to penetrate the wall of hurt. The only power that can penetrate is a power called love, often nothing else. So, I urge you to be an action figure, a shero or hero, called Love!


Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

Pull Up the Weeds

I have been extremely busy and have not been paying attention to my flower bed. Yesterday, I noticed the weeds had gotten out of control! I had to take action!
Even though I was tired, I put on my boots and got in there and pulled up those weeds! I found that some of those weeds were wrapped around the base of the good shrubs and plants; choking them. I thought, “Oh, no you don’t, get outta here!”
I enjoy pulling up weeds! It is symbolic of getting the stuff out of my life that is hindering, dead, stagnant and dull.  When you pull up the weeds in your life, you are giving opportunity for the good things in your life to flourish.
Put on your ‘weed pulling’ boots, get in deep into your life and uproot those weeds, those habits and situations that are lifelessly lingering in your life, causing problems, stunting your growth and choking the good things in your life.

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

We Are Responsible For What We Allow

Don’t give more than you feel comfortable giving but know that some giving may not feel comfortable, yet necessary. Hence why we ought not allow our feelings to have full control of us. Feelings are fickle. They change like the wind. Feelings can toss us to and fro, if we are not careful. Our feelings will have us all over the place, unfocused and making the wrong decisions. It is important to get our feelings under control. While it is fine to follow your heart – think consciously about what you are doing. While feelings can change frequently – it is important how you feel.

When you have committed yourself; it is assumed that you have counted up the cost of what you are committing yourself to. If you are not ready, then don’t commit. Don’t even go there. Nobody forces you. You choose. Choose not to open the door if you are not ready to walk through it. Don’t be so hasty to make a move because someone else is pushing and prodding you. You’ve got to know what you want; you determine what’s right for you. It is very important to be properly aligned before making any decision. I would like to share with you four thoughts:

1. We are responsible for what we allow. If you don’t want it, stop allowing it in your life. If it is hindering your growth in any way — take some time to reevaluate its purpose in your life. A great question to ask is: Is this helping me be my best?

2. Our feelings can fool us. Get an understanding of why you are feeling a certain way. Deal with it when your mind is steady and alert.

3. Commitment carries responsibility. If you are not ready to be responsible, then don’t commit yourself to anything.

4. You choose. Often, we leave decisions that we should make in the hands of others. It is your life, not anyone else’s.

Many times, in my past, I’ve allowed my feelings to have control over my decisions. I was so inconsistent and did not know my own power. I constantly gave away my power to choose. Once I gained an understanding of myself, I took my power back and began operating my life differently. Now, I clearly understand where the lines are drawn. I know what I am responsible for and what I am not. I committed myself to loving myself and not doing anything to place myself in harm’s way. I realized that nobody forces me to do anything I am not comfortable doing. When I commit, I have counted up the cost of that commitment. I hope this post has encouraged you to do the same.

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.