Don’t say anything at all

Strongly consider the effects of your speaking death or misfortune over someone else’s life. We are all connected. When you do it to others, you are doing it to yourself. I wonder if the tables were turned and it was done to you, in your face, repeatedly, day after day. I don’t think you would like it at all. Consider the other person is just as human as you are, flaws, faults, frailties and mistakes. If you knew the power of your words (whether in jest or not), you would be far more careful about what you say about yourself and others. Consider your words carefully before you speak them, over your own life and anyone else’s. Think. It is not cool or dope to do it. Choose not to encourage or engage it in conversations with others. You will feel better having restrained yourself. I encourage you to adopt this very simple task: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Speak positively about yourself and others. If you don’t want it to come true for you, don’t say it.

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Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping Entrepreneurs understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and develop a unique business strategy for their business growth and sustainability. email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

 

Don’t solely rely on other people

It is not a good idea to solely make your determinations, judgments, decisions and resolves based on opinions. I encourage you to get clarity: learn for yourself, read for yourself and get an understanding so you can be clear to make educated choices about people, places and things. If it is at all possible for you, base your decisions on knowledge that you have attained through your own search for understanding. People’s opinions are their viewpoints, not taking your thoughts and beliefs into account, and they have a right to it.

Viewpoints are shaped by experiences, upbringing, perceptions and a person’s own truth that they use to guide their own lives, which may not resonate or connect with the way you live and what you believe. So, don’t solely rely on other people for your news and information, especially when you can find out for yourself.

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Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping Entrepreneurs understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and develop a unique business strategy for their business growth and sustainability. email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

Don’t Be Noone’s Puppet

When people know what buttons to push in us that will set us off; they will keep pushing those buttons because they have found delight in how much they are controlling us with OUR OWN buttons. Its like we are their personal puppet and they hold the strings! So, what do we do? We render the buttons powerless by knowing and managing ourselves to where what they do is of no effect on us. You need to know yourself well enough to know what sets you off, gets you riled up or causes you to come unglued.

You need to know yourself so you can have a personal strategy to deal with anything that comes against you in such a way whereby you are not giving the other person power over you. If you allow someone to control your emotions; they are controlling you.

Many of us allow others to control our very movements, who we talk to and where we go. If you see someone whom we have an ought with; we go the other direction. Well, they have just wielded a power they didn’t know they had – to control you. Don’t give anyone a set of strings to bounce your arms and legs up and down. Get control of your life or someone else will take the control. Stand up for yourself. Strengthen your backbone. Don’t be anyone’s puppet. 

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Frenetta Tate is a Motivational Orator, International Author, Women’s Empowerment Coach, Business Consultant and Partner. Learn more at http://www.frenettatate.com

Seven Tips to Communicating Better in Life and Business

1. Be an active listener by affirming and acknowledging what you heard. Even repeating it back or giving a recap of what the person said. As well, connect with what they said to thoughts you have. Make the conversation well-rounded.

2. Stay present in conversation. Especially during a networking event, don’t walk away in the midst of a conversation because someone ‘better’ walked by or came into the room. Stay in conversation.

3. Be true to yourself and others. Don’t do something unless you believe in it. Don’t do something to appease others. Be as authentic as possible. You will get more respect being authentic than you will when people learn you are a fake.

4. Keep promises and if you can’t – tell them. Be honest about what you can and can not do. Don’t make promises knowing you will break them to make yourself look good in the moment.

5. Seek understanding, abandon assumption. Don’t assume you know why a decision was made or why people are doing what they are doing. Seek to understand so you will not assume the wrong information.

6. Practice acceptance of where people are in their lives and be an encouragement. Don’t try to get people to do something they are not ready to do. Accept where they are. You just might be the person to inspire them to move out of complacency but you will not know it if you are trying to change them as soon as you meet them.

7. Be sincere and serious about building strong relationships with people you desire to build with and let them know your heart in an authentic way.

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Frenetta Tate is an International Best-Selling Author, Certified Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker, Event Strategy Consultant and President of EmpowerMe365™. Learn more at http://www.frenettatate.com

We Cannot Do Anything About This World

Many of us separate ourselves and wonder why we are being treated separately; divide ourselves and then complain about being on the side of the very dividing line that we’ve created. We do well to look at how we, individually and collectively, are creating divisiveness through our words, actions and traditions.

Each person contributes to the betterment or destruction of any relationship, whether intended or not, whether directly or indirectly, whether consciously or subconsciously.

We can’t do anything about the world until we do something about ourselves. Changing the world truly begins with changing ourselves and changing ourselves truly begins with looking at ourselves through an objective lens with a commitment to remove that which does not build and edify.

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Frenetta Tate is an International Best-Selling Author, Certified Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker, Event Strategy Consultant and President of EmpowerMe365™. Learn more at http://www.frenettatate.com