I stand outside the window of life peering in to see what needs to change. Maybe I need to move the furniture around, change out the sofa, change the color theme or throw out what pieces are not working. Either way, I am responsible for the interior design of my life – no one else. It is easy to look at others and point the finger at what they are doing and not doing to relieve the pressure off of ourselves and what we know we are doing that is not right. I have found myself in the position of placing blame when I realized that the best value I can add to my own life is to look at myself with truthful eyes and make conscious changes so that I can show up in the world in a more consistent and loving manner. You see, when we shift the focus from others to ourselves; it is only then that we have the opportunity to grow and truly allow ourselves to shine.
Hiding behind the mistakes, faults and short comings of others leaves us unchanged, unenlightened and with an inability to change the world. We can only change the world when we have committed to changing ourselves. We must realize the contributions we make to the world as an individual. Any change that we want to make begins within us, not outside of us. Each of us have to make a conscious decision about how we live, operate and communicate with others. One person can not change the entire world. It takes each of us making an individual commitment to be a better citizen. Yes, a better human being!
Often, we do not realize our connectedness. We are not islands, although I think many of us would like to be alone in this world without others who challenge and push us toward life betterment. Many of us would rather not ruffle the feathers within our hearts to start thinking about our contributions, and the affects thereof, in this world. Many of us would rather stay put, stay isolated and stay under the shadows of someone else; unwilling to take responsibility for the role they play in life but it cannot be this way. We are not islands. We need each other and when we are misaligned; we feel it at the core of us. We feel out of whack and disconnected. Get connected! Go where you are embraced for who you are. Go where you are wanted and valued. Go where you feel tremendous love and support. Go back to the connection!
We all may not have a star role. We may just be a part of the supporting cast but even as a supporting cast member; we still have a responsibility to contribute to the potential greatness of the film of life. This is not to gain awards, status or popularity but to do it simply because it is the right thing to do and simply because of your commitment to stand on the outside of your life and peer in to see what needs to change. A prelude to changing the world is changing yourself.
Frenetta Tate is an International Best-Selling Author, Certified Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker, Event Strategy Consultant and President of EmpowerMe365™, which comprises of her Coaching Programs and Speaking platform, Building Powerhouses of Influence and Inspiration. Follow her on Twitter @frenettatate