Category Archives: Motivational Moment

Hater-ation is Motivation

Hateration is motivation

When someone does not like you, it is not about you. It is really about them. When they show, through their actions and words that they hate you. They hate what you stand for, they hate how you approach life, they hate how much you care about your appearance, they hate your dedication, they hate your confidence. There is something about the way you are choosing to live you life that they hate because they are not doing what they know they need to do in their own lives.

Instead of focusing on their own greatness, they rather tear down someone else. So, when you encounter someone like this, see it as motivation for you to keep doing great things in your life, keep being dedicated, confident and taking pride in your appearance. You are doing something right; otherwise they would not give you the time of day.

Don’t focus on why they don’t like you. Don’t engage at all. Keep going, choose your battles wisely and focus on continuing to be the best you can be. There is nothing you can do about a made up mind, someone deadest against you so don’t try to persuade others. Your response just might change them, encourage them, empower them to be just as dedicated and confident as you.

Keep your head held high and stay focused.

Question for reflection: Has someone hated on you lately? How did you handle it?

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit www.frenettatate.com to learn more about her services and products.

Stand Outside the Window of Life

Best Value

I stand outside the window of life peering in to see what needs to change. Maybe I need to move the furniture around, change out the sofa, change the color theme or throw out what pieces are not working. Either way, I am responsible for the interior design of my life – no one else. It is easy to look at others and point the finger at what they are doing and not doing to relieve the pressure off of ourselves and what we know we are doing that is not right. I have found myself in the position of placing blame when I realized that the best value I can add to my own life is to look at myself with truthful eyes and make conscious changes so that I can show up in the world in a more consistent and loving manner. You see, when we shift the focus from others to ourselves; it is only then that we have the opportunity to grow and truly allow ourselves to shine.

Hiding behind the mistakes, faults and short comings of others leaves us unchanged, unenlightened and with an inability to change the world. We can only change the world when we have committed to changing ourselves. We must realize the contributions we make to the world as an individual. Any change that we want to make begins within us, not outside of us. Each of us have to make a conscious decision about how we live, operate and communicate with others. One person can not change the entire world. It takes each of us making an individual commitment to be a better citizen. Yes, a better human being!

Often, we do not realize our connectedness. We are not islands, although I think many of us would like to be alone in this world without others who challenge and push us toward life betterment. Many of us would rather not ruffle the feathers within our hearts to start thinking about our contributions, and the affects thereof, in this world. Many of us would rather stay put, stay isolated and stay under the shadows of someone else; unwilling to take responsibility for the role they play in life but it cannot be this way. We are not islands. We need each other and when we are misaligned; we feel it at the core of us. We feel out of whack and disconnected. Get connected! Go where you are embraced for who you are. Go where you are wanted and valued. Go where you feel tremendous love and support. Go back to the connection!

We all may not have a star role. We may just be a part of the supporting cast but even as a supporting cast member; we still have a responsibility to contribute to the potential greatness of the film of life.  This is not to gain awards, status or popularity but to do it simply because it is the right thing to do and simply because of your commitment to stand on the outside of your life and peer in to see what needs to change. A prelude to changing the world is changing yourself.

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Frenetta Tate is an International Best-Selling Author, Certified Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker, Event Strategy Consultant and President of EmpowerMe365™, which comprises of her Coaching Programs and Speaking platform, Building Powerhouses of Influence and Inspiration. Follow her on Twitter @frenettatate

The People In The Audience

I had a dream that I was getting an award and when my name was announced, I came from back stage. The audience was full of all the people who told me ‘no’, all of the people who ‘walked away’ and all of the people who told me ‘you can’t do that’ and ‘you aren’t smart enough’ and ‘you will not have anything’.

After I accepted the award, they stood and gave me a standing ovation with nods of acceptance, smiles and high fives.

It was as if the people in the audience represented the many tests that I encountered up to that moment and passed. They all gathered together in one place to celebrate. To CELEBRATE ME! I share this to say that you are going to go through some trials and tests in your life. Seek to pass them knowing that greater is ahead. Trials don’t come to last but to pass. If my dream gives you a visual of that fact then use it.

Keep going, keep forging ahead, keep doing what you know is right to do. Keep after your dreams, stay focused on your goals, don’t give up when you face resistance. Be diligent. Be confident in yourself. See the standing ovation. See yourself as a conqueror. See yourself as more than capable. See yourself great, bigger, stronger and wiser.   SEE YOURSELF!

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit www.frenettatate.com to learn more about her services and products.

You Are One Person

It takes more than one person to build an empire. More than one brick to build a skyscraper. More than one part to build a car and more than one person to be considered a village but it only takes one person to have an idea, one person to provide the blueprint, one person to order the part and one person to lead a village. You are one person.

You cannot do everything but you can do something.

Take the something that you can do and do it to the hilt. Steve Jobs was one person who had a dream. Michael Jordan is one person who had a dream. Beyoncé is one person who had a dream. Mark Zuckerberg is one person who had an idea. Those dreams and ideas can create an empire, build a skyscraper, build a car and create a village! Start with where you are. Start with you.

You cannot do everything but you can do something.

You can light a match of love and that one light can start a fire of positivity in the world. You cannot do everything but you can do something and that ‘something’ does not have to be huge. You may not be able to buy the homeless person a house or a car but you can buy him or her lunch.

You cannot do everything but you can do something. Do something!

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit www.frenettatate.com to learn more about her services and products.

Empower Tip Tuesday – 12/03/2013 – Make Today Great

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit www.frenettatate.com to learn more about her services and products.