Category Archives: Relationships

You are a Creator of Your Life

You must surround yourself with people who appreciate you, love you, encourage you, help you to be the best you can be by speaking honest truth and those who build you up! Unfortunately, everybody is not going to accept you. You have to get past that. You must understand that.

Don’t you dare let someone else’s un-appreciation or non-acceptance of you be a point of depression or cause you to feel ‘less than’. Don’t give them that kind of power over your life! You must encourage yourself!

Stop being so dependent on other people for your value! If someone does not appreciate you, it is not your problem. Don’t let that stop you from giving your best. Don’t let that stop you from living your life. Don’t let that victimize you.

You are not a victim of your life; you are the creator of your life.

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

Don’t solely rely on other people

It is not a good idea to solely make your determinations, judgments, decisions and resolves based on opinions. I encourage you to get clarity: learn for yourself, read for yourself and get an understanding so you can be clear to make educated choices about people, places and things. If it is at all possible for you, base your decisions on knowledge that you have attained through your own search for understanding. People’s opinions are their viewpoints, not taking your thoughts and beliefs into account, and they have a right to it.

Viewpoints are shaped by experiences, upbringing, perceptions and a person’s own truth that they use to guide their own lives, which may not resonate or connect with the way you live and what you believe. So, don’t solely rely on other people for your news and information, especially when you can find out for yourself.

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping Entrepreneurs understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and develop a unique business strategy for their business growth and sustainability. email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

Hater-ation is Motivation

Hateration is motivation

When someone does not like you, it is not about you. It is really about them. When they show, through their actions and words that they hate you. They hate what you stand for, they hate how you approach life, they hate how much you care about your appearance, they hate your dedication, they hate your confidence. There is something about the way you are choosing to live you life that they hate because they are not doing what they know they need to do in their own lives.

Instead of focusing on their own greatness, they rather tear down someone else. So, when you encounter someone like this, see it as motivation for you to keep doing great things in your life, keep being dedicated, confident and taking pride in your appearance. You are doing something right; otherwise they would not give you the time of day.

Don’t focus on why they don’t like you. Don’t engage at all. Keep going, choose your battles wisely and focus on continuing to be the best you can be. There is nothing you can do about a made up mind, someone deadest against you so don’t try to persuade others. Your response just might change them, encourage them, empower them to be just as dedicated and confident as you.

Keep your head held high and stay focused.

Question for reflection: Has someone hated on you lately? How did you handle it?

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit www.frenettatate.com to learn more about her services and products.

What’s on a Single Woman’s Mind

No matter the age, not every single woman is desperate or looking for love in wrong places or living on fantasy island or think ‘any’ man is better than ‘no’ man. Just because a woman is not married doesn’t mean something is wrong with her. She has choices.

Just because a single woman who has children doesn’t have a man in her life doesn’t mean she can’t get one or that no one wants her. A single woman who buys a home doesn’t mean she thinks she doesn’t need a man to help her.

A single woman who attempts to open the door for herself while on a date often does it out of habit, not to offend a gentleman. A true gentleman will keep trying to get the door, no matter what. That’s what gentlemen do.

If you meet a single woman who is self-sufficient and seemingly strong, it’s because she has had to be for the sake of survival and sustainability in life. Don’t feel intimidated by it. Celebrate such a woman and if you want to be her man; then rise up and show your intentions.

When a true gentleman presents himself as such to a true lady; she will recognize it.

Surely, within these scenarios lie the variables that life always presents but don’t let society’s definitions and interpretations trip you up.

Get to know the woman without the bias assumptions or things you’ve heard and you just might find a priceless diamond.

Frenetta Tate is a Certified Empowerment Coach, Motivational Speaker and International Best-Selling Author and Co-contributor to the New York Times Best-Seller, Business Model YOU, Visit http://www.frenettatate.com to learn more about her services and products.

Ignore The Cover

It is often said, “Never judge a book by its cover.” That is a very wise saying with a great nugget of truth that can be delved into a bit deeper. Anything can look one way on the outside but you have no idea until you read its contents, until you open the book, until you have had the opportunity to see what is ‘in it’ and so it is with people.

We see what is on the outside and typically judge based on the outer appearance. While it is true that we don’t fully know a person’s heart, we can get to know someone by talking to them, asking questions and developing relationship. The lazy way is to make assumptions and while judging, point the finger at them for what they are or are not doing.  This is not only lazy but it is unfair.  Prejudgment without facts is ignorant assumption.

The truth is we are all broken somewhere. You can declare your wholeness but you still must do the work. . Just be honest with yourself about the areas that need some work. That is why it doesn’t make sense to judge and point fingers at each other.  If you know like I know, no one is perfect. We all have ‘stuff’. It is the enlightened ones that choose a path to deal with them so that they can be better people. So, never judge a book by its cover, instead ignore the cover and read the book. Be an enlightened one by realizing that a person is more than what they appear to be on the outside. If you take a moment to get to know them; you just may grow from such an experience. I challenge you to ignore the cover and read the book!

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit www.frenettatate.com to learn more about her services and products.