Category Archives: Successful Living

You Can not Give what You Do not Have

You can’t love another human being unless you love and accept yourself. You cannot give what you don’t have. Your self-worth is very important. I am not referring to glorious vanity or your thinking more highly of yourself that you ought. I am referring to the mentality of accepting yourself wholly and without prejudice. It is a treasure and a delight when I meet someone who knows their own worth. When you are aware of who you really are (not who others think you are), you refuse to accept anything less than what you are worth. When I talk about ‘worth’ here, I am referring to your value. Surely, you are priceless.

There is no amount of money that can equal to your existence. There is no amount of money that can be paid to cover your presence. But value, in this case, has to do with how you feel about yourself, treat yourself and what thoughts you think towards yourself.

When you value yourself, others will follow suit in like manner. Many people stay in relationships that are unhealthy because they believe that their own worth is tied to another person. Believe me when I say that your worth is not engulfed within another person. If you are in this type of relationship, Get Out Now! And decide that you are worth it. You deserve to be in a healthy, loving relationship. Other people can help, teach, encourage and empower us but no one can place a measure of value upon you except you-alone. You must know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are worthy! Say it with me: “I am Worthy of Love”

Though the world can be an unloving place, we all, in spite of what we show forth to others, we all have the capacity to love. Love is universal. Any person can recognize love with their heart. It may take longer for some people to recognize love because hurt has blocked them but given the chance, they will. Some people need more love and therefore, more patience to deal with. When you meet someone who seems the most unloving – they are the ones who really need it. They need something to penetrate the wall of hurt. The only power that can penetrate is a power called love, often nothing else. So, I urge you to be an action figure, a shero or hero, called Love!

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

Bullies Don’t Stop Because You Quit

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Reading this article at the link below made me think about acceptance of ourselves and how we can allow ourselves to be ‘controlled’ by other people’s opinions.

Iggy Azalea quits social media after body bullying

It actually saddened me a bit. Acceptance is key. You’ve got to accept and love yourself and everything about you, no matter how weird your toes look, or how you look in a bikini. For some, it takes time but get on that journey and be resolute!  This is crucial to life sustainability so that when someone talks about you badly – you can put them and their opinions in the right place and perspective.

Don’t you dare allow other people’s opinions to have so much power and influence over your life that you just quit. Everyone has an opinion about you – even those who don’t even know you nor have met you. Take it with one grain of salt and not give it so much importance, influence and power over your life, control how you behave and alter who you are, your mood and your decisions about your life.

Never Quit. Never give up. Each of us have great gifts and contributions to offer the world yet there are those who do not want to see us succeed or touch a life positively. They are all around us – some more vocal than others. We must keep forging ahead because you will not please everyone and everyone will not like you. They just won’t.

Two things:

  • If the information is true – agree with it – take the power away from the critical comment through agreeance; removing its ability to hurt you.
  • If it is not true, ignore it and move on. Don’t allow it time to settle in your heart and soul. Don’t give it real estate in your life.

In the entertainment business, you are in the spotlight and everything is magnified. Quitting won’t solve it. Bullies don’t stop because you choose to quit. Bullies don’t give up their quest because you are not there or you’ve taken a break. It only gives them more to bully you about, more to talk about. They will be there when you come back.

Face the bully and say, “I don’t care what you think about me – I am going to do me” and leave it that. The truth is they will talk. It will not stop. You don’t have to subject yourself to anything that is harming you yet you do have to decide whether you will change yourself and suppress what you love because of someone else’s view of you or if you will forge ahead anyway and walk boldly in your purpose without regret or apology. Go bless the people and stay focused on that. Don’t let their view control you!

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit to learn more about her services and products.

Let Today Be THE DAY – A Declaration

Yes! We all have dreams, goals, aspirations and hopes about our future – individually and collectively. Along life’s highway to those things; ‘shift’ happens. We can get discouraged, lose hope, become cynical and give up on all of it. We basically stop trying and stop our pursuits.

TODAY, IN THIS VERY MOMENT, As you read this, I SPEAK a FRESH wind into your spirit, a reviving wind, a rejuvenating wind, a wind that will SHIFT YOU FORWARD to REALIZE your dreams, goals, aspirations and hopes! I speak against discouragement, lack, mis-guidance, unworthiness, injustice, dashed dreams, crushed hopes, lost aspirations and faulty goals. I speak LIFE to you, flowing within you like raging waters washing away the hurt, disappointment, pain and guilt.

May you be ENERGIZED, EMPOWERED, ENCOURAGED and ECSTATIC about your future. I say to you RISE UP from your bed of barrenness! RISE UP from your couch of complacency! RISE UP from your chair of callousness! Walk toward your destiny with a fresh vision for your life – a vision of hope with a bright future. No longer settle for the scraps of life, no longer settle for just getting by, no longer settle for being average. YOU have GREATNESS on the INSIDE of you!

Your dreams can be realized! Step out with a new hope TODAY. Only YOU can make that decision to RISE UP! Let TODAY be your day of healing, restoration and revival. Let TODAY be the day that YOU make your COMEBACK! Let TODAY be the day that you WRITE your own DREAM declaration!  Let Today Be THE DAY!

Frenetta Tate is an International Best-Selling Author and Co-contributor to the New York Times Best-Seller, Business Model YOU, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit to learn more about her services and products.

The Powerhouse Woman Manifesto – Gift Book

It took me a long time to be able to make such declarations over my life and now, I share them with you, for you and about you! A Gift book of Positive Words of Declaration and Power, Words to live by, Words to command your life, Words that… speak of who you are, who you desire to be; Words of Confidence, Words of Triumph, Words of Determination. Words of a Powerhouse Woman!  Stand strong in who you are!
You are Powerful beyond Measure! This is a poetic verse, a prayer, a declaration of the power of a woman, the confidence she possess and the extraordinary presence she brings to the world. The Powerhouse woman is a confident woman and this manifesto confirms all that you’ve been thinking about yourself and more.
EMBRACE YOURSELF!  Buy this gift book for your sisters, girlfriends, mothers and daughters.
Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit to learn more about her services and products.

Don’t Get Caught Up

Many of us can get too caught up in the things of the world that we completely lose ourselves in it, making decisions based on what other people think about us, go along with and adopt ways of being that do not line up with the values we truly hold dear –all for the sake of pleasing others. No, be authentically you, not an imitation of societal fantasies. Don’t change yourself to fit in nor give in to pressures of others to do something that doesn’t give YOU peace. Stand up for yourself. #EmpowerMyLifeFrenetta

Frenetta Tate is an International Best Selling Author of “Hot Mama in High Heels”, Certified Empowerment Coach and Motivational Speaker. Visit to learn more about her services and products.