Get out of the Self-Made Box

Many of us have been in a self-made box for so long that we do not realize that we function and make decisions inside a box. A self-evaluation with a focus on where you may be limiting yourself through your beliefs, tradition or simply mimicking someone of great influence can bring you insight. You’ve got to get out of that box of comfort – so you can realize the sheer abundance that is already yours.


Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

A Lie is Like a Thief

Society has made the lie more attractive. It takes more effort to be honest and trust that your honesty will get you what you want because those who lie seem to be getting what they want through lying. Honesty is still the best policy. I rather be rewarded for honesty than for a lie any day. I rather walk away with my integrity intact than with a lie that can crumble at any given moment. A lie can bring the edifice you built to rubble in a matter of seconds. A lie is like a thief; you don’t know when it will strike. Tell the truth and you will not have to be afraid of when the lie will show up on your doorstep.


Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

We Are Responsible For What We Allow

Don’t give more than you feel comfortable giving but know that some giving may not feel comfortable, yet necessary. Hence why we ought not allow our feelings to have full control of us. Feelings are fickle. They change like the wind. Feelings can toss us to and fro, if we are not careful. Our feelings will have us all over the place, unfocused and making the wrong decisions. It is important to get our feelings under control. While it is fine to follow your heart – think consciously about what you are doing. While feelings can change frequently – it is important how you feel.

When you have committed yourself; it is assumed that you have counted up the cost of what you are committing yourself to. If you are not ready, then don’t commit. Don’t even go there. Nobody forces you. You choose. Choose not to open the door if you are not ready to walk through it. Don’t be so hasty to make a move because someone else is pushing and prodding you. You’ve got to know what you want; you determine what’s right for you. It is very important to be properly aligned before making any decision. I would like to share with you four thoughts:

1. We are responsible for what we allow. If you don’t want it, stop allowing it in your life. If it is hindering your growth in any way — take some time to reevaluate its purpose in your life. A great question to ask is: Is this helping me be my best?

2. Our feelings can fool us. Get an understanding of why you are feeling a certain way. Deal with it when your mind is steady and alert.

3. Commitment carries responsibility. If you are not ready to be responsible, then don’t commit yourself to anything.

4. You choose. Often, we leave decisions that we should make in the hands of others. It is your life, not anyone else’s.

Many times, in my past, I’ve allowed my feelings to have control over my decisions. I was so inconsistent and did not know my own power. I constantly gave away my power to choose. Once I gained an understanding of myself, I took my power back and began operating my life differently. Now, I clearly understand where the lines are drawn. I know what I am responsible for and what I am not. I committed myself to loving myself and not doing anything to place myself in harm’s way. I realized that nobody forces me to do anything I am not comfortable doing. When I commit, I have counted up the cost of that commitment. I hope this post has encouraged you to do the same.

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping men and women understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and navigate through life using effective strategies for their unique success. Feel free to email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

 

Don’t say anything at all

Strongly consider the effects of your speaking death or misfortune over someone else’s life. We are all connected. When you do it to others, you are doing it to yourself. I wonder if the tables were turned and it was done to you, in your face, repeatedly, day after day. I don’t think you would like it at all. Consider the other person is just as human as you are, flaws, faults, frailties and mistakes. If you knew the power of your words (whether in jest or not), you would be far more careful about what you say about yourself and others. Consider your words carefully before you speak them, over your own life and anyone else’s. Think. It is not cool or dope to do it. Choose not to encourage or engage it in conversations with others. You will feel better having restrained yourself. I encourage you to adopt this very simple task: if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all. Speak positively about yourself and others. If you don’t want it to come true for you, don’t say it.

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping Entrepreneurs understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and develop a unique business strategy for their business growth and sustainability. email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.

 

Don’t solely rely on other people

It is not a good idea to solely make your determinations, judgments, decisions and resolves based on opinions. I encourage you to get clarity: learn for yourself, read for yourself and get an understanding so you can be clear to make educated choices about people, places and things. If it is at all possible for you, base your decisions on knowledge that you have attained through your own search for understanding. People’s opinions are their viewpoints, not taking your thoughts and beliefs into account, and they have a right to it.

Viewpoints are shaped by experiences, upbringing, perceptions and a person’s own truth that they use to guide their own lives, which may not resonate or connect with the way you live and what you believe. So, don’t solely rely on other people for your news and information, especially when you can find out for yourself.

Frenetta Tate is CEO of Frenetta Tate International, a Certified Women’s Life Empowerment Coach, Certified International Entrepreneur Coach, Business Strategist, Author and Speaker. I am passionate about helping Entrepreneurs understand their unique advantage, embrace their personal power with clarity and develop a unique business strategy for their business growth and sustainability. email to frenetta@frenettatate.com or connect to @frenettatate on social media.